Stay At Home Songwriting Retreat: Day 4 Self Confidence & The Comparison Trap

Stay At Home Songwriting Retreat: Day 4 Self Confidence & The Comparison Trap

Welcome to Day 4 of the retreat!

Alright you guys, welcome to day four in your songwriting retreat. Today we’re going to be talking about something that I’m the most excited to talk about: Self confidence.

Confidence in our writing can be hard to come by sometimes. We can often feel like writing is selfish. That it’s something we do only for ourselves and no one else. That our ideas are trash and no one’s going to want to listen to what we have to say. We have that mean little voice in the backs of our heads that tell us we’re no good, that there are so many people who are better than us and that we should just stop embarrassing ourselves now.

Here’s the deal: You may or may not be as good as your favorite songwriter out there. But you know what? There was a time when your favorite songwriter was not as good as his or her favorite songwriter. And you know how your favorite songwriter got so amazing? They worked their asses off. They practiced. They wrote. They shared their work. They wrote bad songs. They wrote better songs. They wrote great songs. They learned. They took the criticism and they weighed it against their own “why” and made smart decisions on how to make their songs the best they could be. They put in the time and effort that it takes to grow.

They didn’t stop writing.

If you take away anything from this writer’s retreat, I hope it’s this: never stop writing. Don’t let anything that the joy that writing brings away from you. Not yourself, not anyone else.

Usually if there’s a “what if” associated with any of your fears around songwriting - the answer is typically “keep writing.” It doesn’t hurt anyone to keep writing. And it only makes you a better, more confident songwriter.

Alright, my self-loving, ultra-confident world conquering songwriters, let’s move into today’s prompt so you can start writing!


What is your biggest fear?

Take 5 or 10 minutes to free write on this concept. What are you afraid of the most in life? How does it affect you? When does it show up in your life? And how can you conquer it? Sometimes writing about what’s weighing heavily on our hearts is therapeutic, and can be a wonderful way to work through your feelings around it.

Happy writing, friends, and I’ll see you in the next and final video in your retreat! See you tomorrow!

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