3 Lies You Tell Yourself About Your Songwriting and the Actual Truth

Three lies and the truth about you and your songwriting. | SongFancy

1. The Lie: You think you have nothing to say.

You’re telling yourself that your perspective on anything isn’t interesting enough to even be said. You feel like maybe your life is too “good” or “normal” or “average” for you to ever have anything worthwhile to write about. It’s all been written already, and you feel like you don’t have anything to contribute with your music.

The Truth: Your perspective is uncommon, new, rare and particular,  simply because you are you. There is no one else out there with your mind, your attitude, or your life experiences. You may feel lacking in extreme hardship and therefore you can’t write “real songs” about difficult topics or interesting situations. The fact is, you can tell a story that’s been told a thousand times, but it’s going to be different simply because it’s told through the lens of your perspective, and you are the only person who can do that.

2. The Lie: You think no one will listen.

You’re convinced that you are nobody and no one will ever want to listen to the dinky little songs you write in your bedroom. Alone.

The truth: Ok, you need to stop putting yourself down, first of all. The cold, hard, truth about making art is that you never know how it’s going to be received until you put it out there into the world. A song could be unpopular among your family and friends. Or… or. They could love it. The thing is, when you start releasing your songs for other people to listen to and experience, you’re opening yourself up for success. It happens. There will always be critics, but there also always be fans.

3. The Lie: You feel selfish.

You feel like your creative urges to write songs is selfish, and taking you away from the realistic, practical expectations of you. When you go to write a song, you feel incredibly guilty, like you are indulging in a self absorbed habit and neglecting the responsibilities and people in your life.

The truth: You are an artist. You make art. That art is songs. It’s how you’re made. You’re not selfish for being made that way. You’re not selfish for wanting to write songs. What is be selfish would be putting your art above everything and everyone else in your life and completely steamrolling the people that love you. If you’re finding it difficult to write in your home because you feel guilty about stepping away fro your family, I’d suggest just talking to them. Tell them this is your passion or your hobby or your career and you’d like to spend time writing, “How can we schedule it in?” They’ll appreciate the effort you’re making to keep them in your life.

Why does this any of this matter?

Because you’re wrong. Plain and simple. You’re wrong and you deserve to write songs if it makes you happy. So go out, and do what makes you happy – write that song.

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Sarah Spencer

Sarah Spencer is an award winning singer/songwriter based in Nashville, TN.

Born in the Sunshine State, Sarah Spencer writes vibrant, shining americana/pop music. She works in Nashville TN as a singer/songwriter, as well as a UX designer for a marketing firm.

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